I recently read a story about a young man i met a few years ago. I wasn’t that close to him and had only really met him once, but knew him through other people. I do know, though, that he deserved a much happier story. His name was Julio Mordoh, and on November 5th 2022 he took his own life.
Julio’s full story can be found here: https://www.dailymaverick.co.za/article/2023-10-10-sexual-abuse-and-suicide-the-spectre-that-haunts-elite-boys-schools-st-johns-college-part-one/
I hear more and more of these truly heart-wrenching narratives everyday. Now, more than ever, there is an everyday necessity of raising awareness about mental health needs and ensuring that resources are readily available. With so much uncertainty and suffering surrounding us everyday, this month being recognized in this way is so crucial for so many people.
“Being present and knowing how to recognize the warning signs when someone is in crisis can make the difference between tragedy and a loved one getting the help they need,” said Health Commissioner Mark Levine, MD. “Just as we have seen with the substance use crisis, it’s important for families, friends and peers to be there for the people you know and love. Suicide is a complex problem, which means preventing suicide must occur at the individual, interpersonal, community and societal levels.”
Suicide is not just a mental health issue; it’s also a public health issue. Let’s take this opportunity to normalize the way we connect around our mental health needs. Let’s take an opportunity now to be kinder, more understanding and more aware of one another. A quick call, a short message, a small compliment- these seemingly insignificant acts matter so much and make all the difference in the world.
So how can you as an individual help?
Start by asking questions:
The first step is to find out whether the person is in danger of acting on suicidal feelings. Be sensitive, but ask direct questions that can help you understand how they are feeling and how serious their situation might be.
Look for warning signs:
You can’t always tell when a loved one or friend is considering suicide, but by being aware and alert to certain warning signs in those around you, you can help save someone’s life.
Below is a link to a great website with some common and not-so-common warning signs of suicidal behavior, which might be helpful to anyone who is confused, suspicious of possible suicidal behavior or just wanting to educate themselves some more.
If someone you know is exhibiting warning signs for suicide, don’t be afraid to ask if he or she is depressed or thinking about suicide. Listen without judging. In some cases, your friend or family member just needs to know that you care and are willing to hear them talk about how they are feeling. Encourage them to seek professional help.
Help is available:
Suicide Crisis Line
Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: All 11 official languages of South Africa are supported.
If you have suicidal thoughts, know that you are not alone. Also know that help is available 24/7. Call your healthcare provider, go to the emergency room or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK.
Take all signs of suicidal behavior seriously:
If someone says he or she is thinking of suicide or behaves in a way that makes you think the person may be suicidal, don’t play it down or ignore the situation. Many people who kill themselves have expressed the intention at some point. You may worry that you’re overreacting, but the safety of your friend or loved one is most important. Don’t worry about straining your relationship when someone’s life is at stake.
You’re not responsible for preventing someone from taking his or her own life — but your intervention may help the person see that other options are available to stay safe and get treatment.
Wabi Sabi 
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